Sometimes I wish I could be a normal housekeeper who could just be there for her family all the time.
But then my mother always taught me that it is good to be ambitious and have a career,
Because your man is going to respect you only till the time you earn, for the rest of the time he may only love you.
Running after money and career should never be the first priority, it should be inner peace and happiness.
I wished to have that peace with my family as a whole, taking care of home because I understand the void and pain the kids have to suffer when they have both parents working.
But then again I realized that I could never forward my empty palms towards my husband for expenses, I could never be dependent on anyone.
Maybe for time being he will be comfortable in raising the family on his own but there will be times when he will feel burdened with financial responsibilities.
And he will never tell you this directly but at times his actions will speak. Nowadays every guy wishes to have an earning wife. If you say no to that then you are slapped with the woman equality caption.
However your shoulders will bend down with the hesitation of asking for things that you fantasize for (a 22 carat diamond ring on platinum belt, a post wedding shoot on the white sand beaches, a Europe trip maybe, and the very least the dress that you so much want).
I see articles that girls want guys who earn big or have stable career. But I do not find much difference with the guys' desire for partners too. The rich businessmen want a beautiful damsel to be showcased. The average/upper middle class ones want a high salaried or at least equal earning women. Earning is easy but you cannot celebrate your achievements otherwise people think you are over ambitious. Working late nights is okay but then you need to be extra cautious of the out-on-hunt molesters. Staying calm during mood swings at work is easy but listening to the tantrums “she is on her days” from peers when things go south is over-irritating.
It is hard being a woman but it more hard being an equal woman.
But then my mother always taught me that it is good to be ambitious and have a career,
Because your man is going to respect you only till the time you earn, for the rest of the time he may only love you.
Running after money and career should never be the first priority, it should be inner peace and happiness.
I wished to have that peace with my family as a whole, taking care of home because I understand the void and pain the kids have to suffer when they have both parents working.
But then again I realized that I could never forward my empty palms towards my husband for expenses, I could never be dependent on anyone.
Maybe for time being he will be comfortable in raising the family on his own but there will be times when he will feel burdened with financial responsibilities.
And he will never tell you this directly but at times his actions will speak. Nowadays every guy wishes to have an earning wife. If you say no to that then you are slapped with the woman equality caption.
However your shoulders will bend down with the hesitation of asking for things that you fantasize for (a 22 carat diamond ring on platinum belt, a post wedding shoot on the white sand beaches, a Europe trip maybe, and the very least the dress that you so much want).
I see articles that girls want guys who earn big or have stable career. But I do not find much difference with the guys' desire for partners too. The rich businessmen want a beautiful damsel to be showcased. The average/upper middle class ones want a high salaried or at least equal earning women. Earning is easy but you cannot celebrate your achievements otherwise people think you are over ambitious. Working late nights is okay but then you need to be extra cautious of the out-on-hunt molesters. Staying calm during mood swings at work is easy but listening to the tantrums “she is on her days” from peers when things go south is over-irritating.
It is hard being a woman but it more hard being an equal woman.
