...because you deserve better.

Every relation goes through this phase once or more. No matter the relation started with how many efforts to convince each other and oneself that he/ she is perfect for us. But as it grows, the relation loses its charm and we start finding excuses. The negativity in our thoughts is something yielded out of our insecurity that if not today then in future we are going to lose him or her. We start calculating the certainty of a break up which we start realizing in the tone of our partner. We start believing that the relation is losing interest and it stands on a fragile support of fear of hurting the other person. Sometimes we do have the fear and the other times it is the self - respect that overcomes the fear. Yes, the self- respect. That is how "ego" is defined in our terms on a slight positive note. Every possibility of getting him/her in the beginning to the probability of loving selflessly for a strong foundation starts falling down on an exponential note. By the time "it is over" comes the graph had gone to the negative side as much as that the abusive terms take over the coordinates. In some typical cases the slope of the graph is determined by the burning of all memories, gifts, diaries, etc. We keep on convincing ourselves that we deserved someone better. But the fact is there is never a comparison. Each love had its own essence, each relation had its own mark in our lives. When we really move on and look back at what we have gone through, then most of the times it is the beautiful memories and not the unwanted fights. We smile. Yes we do. Because with time we learn to forgive and forget. And the moment we learn this, we wish we could roll back time and undone what was done wrong. But the space and time complexity is too complex and there is no algorithm to solve it efficiently. So we skip the part of going back and move on holding with the thought "because you deserve better."